{"id":1119,"date":"2020-09-21T17:43:33","date_gmt":"2020-09-21T15:43:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/desmotspourguerir.com\/?p=1119"},"modified":"2022-02-23T11:31:22","modified_gmt":"2022-02-23T10:31:22","slug":"la-phobie-de-l-abandon","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/helenadahl.eu\/index.php\/2020\/09\/21\/la-phobie-de-l-abandon\/","title":{"rendered":"Je suis ma r\u00e9f\u00e9rence avant tout"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"1119\" class=\"elementor elementor-1119\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-section-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-84edd3b elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default parallax_section_no qode_elementor_container_no\" data-id=\"84edd3b\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-cfff899\" data-id=\"cfff899\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ad340dc elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ad340dc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<h5><strong>La phobie de l&rsquo;abandon nous fait d\u00e9pendre des autres, qui sont l\u00e0 pour combler un vide affectif. Pour r\u00e9ussir \u00e0 surmonter cette peur envahissante, la premi\u00e8re chose est de chercher \u00e0 la comprendre.<\/strong><\/h5>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-571b057 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"571b057\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-fb0ca9e elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default parallax_section_no qode_elementor_container_no\" data-id=\"fb0ca9e\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6b34961\" data-id=\"6b34961\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-56aed18 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"56aed18\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Je suis ma r\u00e9f\u00e9rence avant tout<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d8a141c elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"d8a141c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h6 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">La phobie de l'abandon<\/h6>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-875d9c1 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"875d9c1\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-fd50912 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default parallax_section_no qode_elementor_container_no\" data-id=\"fd50912\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-fea501b\" data-id=\"fea501b\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-55234ca elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"55234ca\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<h2><strong><span style=\"color: #4f8894;\">La phobie de l&rsquo;abandon : ses manifestations<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:heading --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Durant toutes ces ann\u00e9es, s\u2019il y avait bien une chose qui me faisait peur, c\u2019\u00e9tait l\u2019<strong>abandon<\/strong>. M\u00eame sans aucune raison valable, je ne pouvais m\u2019emp\u00eacher de penser, je vais me retrouver toute seule, et cette perspective m\u2019effrayait. \u00c0 tel point que cela en \u00e9tait devenu une <strong>phobie,<\/strong> dont l\u2019impact \u00e9tait consid\u00e9rable sur mon comportement.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p><strong>Je croyais que pour m\u00e9riter d\u2019\u00eatre aim\u00e9e, je devais toujours agir au mieux,<\/strong> \u00eatre la plus gentille, la plus conciliante, la plus agr\u00e9able possible, et causer le moins de probl\u00e8mes. Comme si on ne pouvait m\u2019aimer uniquement pour ce que je faisais, et non ce que j\u2019\u00e9tais. Comme si je n\u2019avais pas le droit \u00e0 l\u2019erreur.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Parce que j&rsquo;avais besoin d&rsquo;\u00eatre rassur\u00e9e, j\u2019\u00e9tais en <strong>qu\u00eate perp\u00e9tuelle d\u2019approbation<\/strong>. \u00ab\u00a0On a pass\u00e9 un bon moment ensemble, n\u2019est-ce pas\u00a0?\u00a0\u00bb \u00ab\u00a0C\u2019\u00e9tait bon ce petit plat\u00a0?\u00a0\u00bb \u00ab\u00a0Tu es s\u00fbr que ce n\u2019est pas un souci\u00a0?\u00a0\u00bb \u00ab\u00a0J\u2019ai bien fait\u00a0?\u00a0\u00bb J\u2019attendais ce \u00ab\u00a0oui\u00a0\u00bb lib\u00e9rateur qui me soulagerait de mes tergiversations. S\u2019il ne venait pas, je m\u2019en voulais terriblement.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>R\u00e9sultat, <strong>une critique, et je me sentais enti\u00e8rement remise en question. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>R\u00e9sultat, <strong>le moindre conflit, <\/strong>dans mon couple, dans ma famille, avec mes amis, et m\u00eame des inconnus, <strong>me d\u00e9vastait<\/strong>. La col\u00e8re et la d\u00e9ception de mes interlocuteurs me faisait craindre d\u2019avoir commis l\u2019irr\u00e9parable. Je les voyais d\u00e9j\u00e0 me rejeter ou me quitter comme une vulgaire chaussette trou\u00e9e.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Me retrouver toute seule \u00e9tant une v\u00e9ritable hantise, je d\u00e9veloppais une <strong>d\u00e9pendance vis-\u00e0-vis de mes proches. <\/strong>J\u2019\u00e9tais en <strong>demande perp\u00e9tuelle d\u2019affection pour combler un vide<\/strong>. Cela a commenc\u00e9 avec ma s\u0153ur, puis mes amis, puis l\u2019homme de ma vie, puis ma fille. Sans eux, me disais-je, \u00ab\u00a0je ne suis rien.\u00a0\u00bb \u00ab\u00a0Ils me compl\u00e8tent.\u00a0\u00bb Parce qu\u2019au fond, <strong>je ne me sentais pas pleine et enti\u00e8re<\/strong>. J\u2019avais besoin d\u2019eux pour trouver un sens \u00e0 ma vie.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Au-del\u00e0, la crainte que mon amour envers eux ne soit pas aussi fort que l\u2019amour qu\u2019ils me donnaient me poursuivait comme un aimant. M\u00eame si je ne voulais pas le voir, <strong>je n\u2019avais pas confiance. <\/strong>Ni en eux, ni en moi. Et, de fait, j\u2019\u00e9tais facilement <strong>jalouse.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Je ne pouvais plus continuer \u00e0 vivre comme cela.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:spacer {\"height\":33} --><\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-spacer\" style=\"height: 33px;\" aria-hidden=\"true\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p><!-- \/wp:spacer --><!-- wp:heading --><\/p>\n<h2><strong><span style=\"color: #4f8894;\">Comprendre la phobie de l&rsquo;abandon : les le\u00e7ons du pass\u00e9<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:heading --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>La premi\u00e8re chose, c\u2019\u00e9tait de <strong>chercher \u00e0 comprendre.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Gr\u00e2ce \u00e0 la th\u00e9rapie, j\u2019ai pu explorer mon pass\u00e9. Et j\u2019ai vite trouv\u00e9 la r\u00e9ponse.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ma grande s\u0153ur.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Durant toute mon enfance, elle repr\u00e9sentait une <strong>figure d\u2019attachement tr\u00e8s forte<\/strong>. J\u2019\u00e9tais si proche d\u2019elle que nous passions presque tout notre temps ensemble. Je n&rsquo;\u00e9tais jamais seule puisque, quand elle n\u2019\u00e9tait pas l\u00e0, il y avait mes parents ou mes amis. Mais, avant tout, il s\u2019agissait d\u2019elle.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Lorsqu&rsquo;elle est tomb\u00e9e malade, le choc a \u00e9t\u00e9 \u00e9norme. En quelques mois, notre relation s\u2019est d\u00e9grad\u00e9e. Plus rien n\u2019\u00e9tait comme avant. Je ne la reconnaissais plus. C\u2019\u00e9tait comme si on m\u2019avait enlev\u00e9 une partie de moi. <strong>Nous nous sommes \u00e9loign\u00e9es, et je l\u2019ai v\u00e9cu comme un abandon. Une immense blessure. <\/strong>Alors qu\u2019en vrai, elle \u00e9tait toujours l\u00e0.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>\u00c0 son d\u00e9c\u00e8s, je me suis sentie me d\u00e9sint\u00e9grer en petits morceaux. Sans elle, qu\u2019\u00e9tais-je\u00a0? Comment allais-je survivre\u00a0?<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:spacer {\"height\":33} --><\/p>\n<div class=\"wp-block-spacer\" style=\"height: 33px;\" aria-hidden=\"true\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<p><!-- \/wp:spacer --><!-- wp:heading --><\/p>\n<h2><strong><span style=\"color: #4f8894;\">Au-del\u00e0 de la phobie de l&rsquo;abandon : se red\u00e9couvrir<\/span><\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:heading --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Des ann\u00e9es plus tard, <strong>la d\u00e9pression m\u2019a forc\u00e9e \u00e0 me reconstruire<\/strong>. \u00c0 regarder \u00e0 l\u2019int\u00e9rieur pour voir ce qui s\u2019y trouve, ce qui me convient et ce que je veux changer, mes forces et mes faiblesses, mes centres d\u2019int\u00e9r\u00eat et de d\u00e9sint\u00e9r\u00eat, mes \u00e9motions et mes appr\u00e9hensions. J\u2019ai enfin appris \u00e0 me conna\u00eetre. J\u2019ai enfin r\u00e9alis\u00e9 toute la richesse qui est la mienne. J\u2019ai enfin compris que<strong> je suis ma propre r\u00e9f\u00e9rence avant tout<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p><!-- \/wp:paragraph --><!-- wp:paragraph --><\/p>\n<p>Aussi, j&rsquo;ai accept\u00e9 que<strong> mes proches<\/strong> <strong>ne sont pas l\u00e0 pour remplir un vide<\/strong>. Leur amour ne sert pas \u00e0 satisfaire ma faim insatiable d\u2019affection. Ils m\u2019offrent quelque chose en plus. Un inestimable cadeau qui d\u00e9passe ma simple personne. <strong>Ils existent \u00e0 mes c\u00f4t\u00e9s, comme j\u2019existe aupr\u00e8s d\u2019eux.<\/strong> Quoi qu&rsquo;il advienne, nous restons toujours des<strong> individus uniques<\/strong>, qui s\u2019apportent mutuellement les uns les autres.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><strong>Maintenant que je dispose des cl\u00e9s qui me permettent de comprendre ma phobie de l\u2019abandon, la deuxi\u00e8me \u00e9tape, et la plus difficile, c\u2019est de trouver les moyens pour la surmonter.\u00a0D\u2019une part, en retrouvant l\u2019estime de soi et la confiance en soi, mais aussi en les autres\u00a0; d\u2019autre part, en r\u00e9apprenant \u00e0 appr\u00e9cier la solitude. J\u2019en parlerai dans mon prochain article.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-12adb24 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default parallax_section_no qode_elementor_container_no\" data-id=\"12adb24\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c66bfe7\" data-id=\"c66bfe7\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-153da78 elementor-widget elementor-widget-bridge_button\" data-id=\"153da78\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"bridge_button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<a  itemprop=\"url\" href=\"https:\/\/helenadahl.eu\/index.php\/a-lecoute-de-ses-emotions\/\" target=\"_self\"  class=\"qbutton  default  qode-button-shadow\" style=\"\">Revenir \u00e0 la page \"\u00c0 l'\u00e9coute de ses \u00e9motions\"<\/a>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-838cc96 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default parallax_section_no qode_elementor_container_no\" data-id=\"838cc96\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-0fcbe3f\" data-id=\"0fcbe3f\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-45186d9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-spacer\" data-id=\"45186d9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"spacer.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-spacer-inner\"><\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-209640b elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default parallax_section_no qode_elementor_container_no\" data-id=\"209640b\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-c5d668e\" data-id=\"c5d668e\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d8e45c7 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d8e45c7\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-1344\" src=\"http:\/\/helenadahl.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Design-Auteur-Bleu-300x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"174\" height=\"174\" srcset=\"https:\/\/helenadahl.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Design-Auteur-Bleu-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/helenadahl.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Design-Auteur-Bleu-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/helenadahl.eu\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/10\/Design-Auteur-Bleu.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 174px) 100vw, 174px\" \/><\/p>\n<h3><strong>H\u00e9l\u00e9na DAHL<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Fran\u00e7aise r\u00e9sidant \u00e0 Bruxelles, \u00e2g\u00e9e de trente-trois ans, j\u2019ai commenc\u00e9 ma carri\u00e8re en tant qu\u2019assistante parlementaire au Parlement europ\u00e9en. Anim\u00e9e par ma passion des mots, j&rsquo;ai choisi de me lancer avec joie dans une aventure litt\u00e9raire. En effet, \u00e9crire a toujours fait partie de moi, et ce d\u00e8s le plus jeune \u00e2ge. Mon premier roman, <em>La nuit s\u2019\u00e9veille et tout s\u2019\u00e9claire<\/em>, est une \u0153uvre de fiction bas\u00e9e sur mon r\u00e9cit de vie. Mon deuxi\u00e8me roman, <em>Un homme vrai<\/em>, raconte l&rsquo;histoire d&rsquo;un homme face \u00e0 la d\u00e9pression.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3290ca5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-bridge_button\" data-id=\"3290ca5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"bridge_button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<a  itemprop=\"url\" href=\"https:\/\/www.le-lion-zaile.com\/en\/accueil\/55-la-nuit-s-eveille-et-tout-s-eclaire-9782960250947.html\" target=\"_self\"  class=\"qbutton  default  qode-button-shadow\" style=\"\">La nuit s'\u00e9veille et tout s'\u00e9claire<i class=\"qode_icon_font_awesome_5 fa5 fa fa-book-open qode_button_icon_element\" style=\"\" ><\/i><\/a>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>La phobie de l&rsquo;abandon nous fait d\u00e9pendre des autres, qui sont l\u00e0 pour combler un vide affectif. Pour r\u00e9ussir \u00e0 surmonter cette peur envahissante, la premi\u00e8re chose est de chercher \u00e0 la comprendre. Je suis&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1121,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[197],"tags":[200,216,222,203],"class_list":["post-1119","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-a-lecoute-de-ses-emotions","tag-depression","tag-emotions","tag-peur","tag-resilience"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.0 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>La phobie de l&#039;abandon - Je suis ma r\u00e9f\u00e9rence avant tout - H\u00e9l\u00e9na DAHL<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"La phobie de l&#039;abandon nous fait d\u00e9pendre des autres. 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